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The Hidden Pattern in Every Relationship

Whether it's romantic partners fighting about chores, co-founders clashing on strategy, parents and teens in standoffs, or friends drifting apart - the root cause is always the same.

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Autonomy

Freedom, choice, respected boundaries

💑 "I need control over my schedule"

🤝 "I need creative control on this project"

👶 "They need independence to grow"

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Competence

Growth, capability, feeling effective

💑 "I need to feel valued"

🤝 "I need to prove I'm capable"

👶 "They need to build confidence"

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Relatedness

Connection, care, belonging

💑 "I need quality time together"

🤝 "I need team cohesion"

👶 "They need emotional safety"

Self-Determination Theory

80 years of research from Deci & Ryan proves these three needs - autonomy, competence, and relatedness - are what make every relationship thrive or fail.

💑 Romantic👨‍👩‍👧 Family🤝 Business👥 Teams👫 Friends

When these needs go unmet, destructive patterns emerge.And most people can't see the pattern they're trapped in.

Every Fight Is Really About 3 Things

80 years of research revealed the architecture of human needs

These aren't just 3 random things - they're backed by 79,637+ academic citations

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Autonomy

Feeling self-directed, having voice and choice

✓ When met: Motivation, authentic decisions, trust

✗ When thwarted: Rebellion, resentment, withdrawal

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Competence

Feeling capable, making progress on what matters

✓ When met: Resilience, growth, persistence

✗ When thwarted: Avoidance, shame, giving up

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Relatedness

Feeling connected, understood, valued

✓ When met: Security, belonging, openness

✗ When thwarted: Isolation, loneliness, distance

The Pattern That Destroys Relationships

💑 Romantic Relationships

"We fight about dishes again."

I feel unappreciated (competence need unmet)

They feel controlled (autonomy need unmet)

→ Both needs unmet → resentment builds → same fight next week

🤝 Business Partnerships

"Strategic decision standoff."

I need creative control (autonomy)

They need to prove capability (competence)

→ Both frustrated → trust erodes → company suffers

👨‍👩‍👧 Parent-Child Dynamics

"Homework meltdowns."

Kid feels incapable (competence threatened)

Parent feels disrespected (autonomy/relatedness unmet)

→ Both defensive → daily battles → relationship damage

👫 Friendships

"Drifting apart."

One needs deeper connection (relatedness)

Other needs space (autonomy)

→ Neither communicated → assumptions made → friendship fades

Different relationships. Same root cause:

Unmet needs creating destructive loops.

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Toxic Pattern

What you're saying

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The Bridge

Autonomy
Competence
Relatedness

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Healthy Pattern

What you actually need

Yawn is the bridge between what you're saying and what you're really asking for.

yawn.ai: One Framework for Every Relationship

Whether it's romantic, family, business, or friends - the same system works

Identify Needs (Both Parties)

Whether it's you and your partner, you and your co-founder, you and your teen - yawn.ai helps everyone identify their autonomy, competence, and relatedness needs.

Example: "I need weekend alone time (autonomy)" + "They need quality time (relatedness)" = Create Saturday morning routine (compromise)

Detect Patterns

AI analyzes your check-ins across any relationship type to identify when needs go unmet and destructive loops form. Catches issues before they explode.

Example: "Conflicts happen Tuesday evenings" → Work stress thwarting needs → Adjust routines

Build New Patterns Together

Collaborative goals that satisfy everyone's needs. Track progress. Celebrate wins. Whether it's date nights, strategic planning sessions, or family check-ins.

Example: Create systems that work for the relationship, not just one person

Capacity Mismatch Loop

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Toxic Pattern

Promise → Can't Deliver → Resentment → Distance → Repeat

Needs Thwarted:

Autonomy

Over-committing without checking capacity

Competence

Failing to follow through, feeling inadequate

Relatedness

Trust broken, connection fraying

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Healthy Pattern

Request → Check Capacity → Honest Yes/No → Reliable Follow-Through

Needs Met:

Autonomy

Choosing realistic commitments

Competence

Succeeding at what you commit to

Relatedness

Trust rebuilt through reliability

Yawn identifies the thwarted needs, then creates a new pattern that satisfies both people

Validation Gap Loop

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Toxic Pattern

Say "I'm Fine" → Expect Mind-Reading → Get Disappointed → Withdraw → Repeat

Needs Thwarted:

Autonomy

Can't ask directly, feeling weak

Competence

Feeling incapable of vulnerability

Relatedness

Disconnected, unseen, misunderstood

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Healthy Pattern

Name the Need → Ask Directly → Receive Support → Connection Deepens

Needs Met:

Autonomy

Choosing to ask for what you need

Competence

Capable of healthy vulnerability

Relatedness

Truly seen and understood

Yawn identifies the thwarted needs, then creates a new pattern that satisfies both people

Control-Rebellion Loop

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Toxic Pattern

Demand → Resist → Escalate → Power Struggle → Repeat

Needs Thwarted:

Autonomy

Both sides feeling controlled or controlling

Competence

Neither feeling effective

Relatedness

Adversaries, not partners

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Healthy Pattern

Explain Why It Matters → Offer Choice → Collaborate → Mutual Respect

Needs Met:

Autonomy

Choice preserved for both

Competence

Working together effectively

Relatedness

Partnership restored

Yawn identifies the thwarted needs, then creates a new pattern that satisfies both people

Same Science. Every Relationship Type.

From intimate partnerships to business collaborations, yawn.ai is the only platform that treats relationships as living systems requiring joint nurturing.

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Romantic Relationships

Stop repeating fights. Build healthy patterns.

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Business Partnerships

Align on needs. Scale trust. Avoid co-founder breakups.

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Family Dynamics

Understand each generation's needs. Reduce conflict.

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Friendships

Maintain deep connections. Navigate life changes together.

Why This Matters Now

Relationships are failing at record rates. Not because people don't care - because they don't have the right tools.

40-50%

Marriage divorce rate¹

$200+

Average therapy session²

65%

Startups fail from co-founder conflict³

¹ American Psychological Association

² Psychology Today 2024 survey

³ Harvard Business School study

What People Are Saying

Alex & Jordan

💑 Partners, 8 years

"We fought about dishes until yawn.ai showed us I needed competence (feeling valued), Jordan needed autonomy. Now we have a system that honors both."

Jennifer M.

👶 Parent-child

"My kid melted down over homework. Yawn revealed it wasn't about homework - their competence need was thwarted. We focus on confidence now, not completion."

Sarah & Michael

🤝 Co-founders

"We clashed on every decision. Yawn showed we both needed autonomy in different domains. Now we have clear ownership and our partnership thrives."

The Chen Family

👨‍👩‍👧 Multi-generational

"Parents, adult children, grandchildren - chaos. Yawn's needs framework gave us language to discuss what everyone needs without blame."

Marcus R.

👔 Manager-team

"My team seemed disengaged. Yawn showed I was micromanaging (thwarting autonomy). Giving them ownership transformed everything."

Emma & Lisa

👫 Friends, 15 years

"Growing apart, didn't know why. Yawn identified unmet relatedness needs - we needed quality time, not group hangs. Deeper than ever now."

Alex & Jordan

💑 Partners, 8 years

"We fought about dishes until yawn.ai showed us I needed competence (feeling valued), Jordan needed autonomy. Now we have a system that honors both."

Jennifer M.

👶 Parent-child

"My kid melted down over homework. Yawn revealed it wasn't about homework - their competence need was thwarted. We focus on confidence now, not completion."

Sarah & Michael

🤝 Co-founders

"We clashed on every decision. Yawn showed we both needed autonomy in different domains. Now we have clear ownership and our partnership thrives."

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